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Why does Stillmonk count only one number?
Because one number is enough, and more numbers tend to turn a climb into a contest.
The one number
Stillmonk counts the days since your climb began. That is all. No points, no scores, no rankings, and no comparing with anyone else. Your community profile has no day count either.
On Home, a quiet line under the day count shows the hours, minutes and seconds ticking by. It is the same count in finer steps, not a second number.
Why not more?
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A number is a lantern, not a judge. It shows where you are on the mountain. It is not a grade on who you are.
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More numbers invite more comparing, with yourself last month or with someone else. Neither helps on a hard evening.
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The trail says the rest. Instead of extra stats, the climb shows you places: Camp 1 at day 7, The Monastery at day 30, Butterfly Meadow at day 60.
After a slip
The count begins again from today, and your longest climb is kept.
If the number starts to feel heavy
The places on the climb are the other way to see how far you have come. There is a post about them in Wins & Milestones.
Set it down for a moment and look at the trail instead. Then ask yourself: if the count disappeared tomorrow, what would you still want to keep doing?
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